Main Page | See live article | Alphabetical index Bondage is a human sexual practice involving being tied up or otherwise restrained for pleasure. Studies in the U.S. have shown that about half of all men find the idea of bondage to be erotic. Many women do as well. As with any study of sexual thoughts and behavior, the available studies are not well controlled and the best studies are now out of date. Public acceptance of bondage as a valid expression of sexuality has advanced slowly. Bondage received a positive treatment (if brief) in "The Joy of Sex," a mainstream sex manual popular in the 1970s. The publication of Madonna's book, "Sex," which included photographs of bound nudes, did a great deal to improve public awareness and acceptance of bondage. Table of contents 1 Divergent Views 1.1 BDSM subcultures 1.2 Couples and Bondage 1.3 Male Masturbation 2 Technique 3 Safety 4 Why do some people like being tied up? 5 Why do some people like to tie other people up? 6 How is bondage done? 7 What are some more involved techniques? 7.4 Bondage positions and techniques 7.5 Bondage equipment 7.6 Advanced techniques 8 See also 9 References 10 External links Divergent Views There are a number of different schools of thought about bondage. The social and sexual role of bondage varies among these groups, as does the sense of limits. These groups include: Members of BDSM subcultures, who see bondage primarily as one of many power-exchange techniques Couples who see bondage as one of many sexual techniques Men (and a few women) for whom bondage mainly has fantasy value during masturbation It is worth noting that bondage has sexual appeal to persons of all sexual orientations. However, a subculture of homosexual men, sometimes called leathermen, were arguably among the first group to make obvious hints of their tastes in bondage in public. BDSM subcultures The leathermen emulated the biker culture that arose after World War II. While the bikers were heterosexual, the leathermen admired their toughness, tenacity, and willingness to ignore mainstream social mores. Consequently, they adopted the biker style of dress, particularly the use of black leather. While this served a utilitarian purpose for the bikers, in providing warmth and protection from road rash, it was primarily of fashion and fetishistic value to the leathermen, who for the most part did not ride motorcycles extensively. The historical record does not reveal the exact nature of the transition from use of leather as a fashion to its use in bondage. We can speculate familiarity with the fetishistic value of leather, combined with a willingness to challenge socially-imposed inhibitions, may have led to experimentation with bondage. Beginning in the late 1960s, heterosexual groups began to come together to explore bondage and power exchange. With time these groups have grown and have raised their profile somewhat, to the point where most U.S. cities of any size have one or more such groups. A major goal of most of these groups is to provide semi-public opprotunities for BDSM, in an effort to provide a safe environment for relative strangers to engage in such activities. As such, these groups attach high importance to objective safety rules, such as the use of safewords. Couples and Bondage Bondage as a source of arousal is engrained deeply enough in the human psyche that it is likely to have been an adjunct to sexual intercourse for as long as there have been ropes. It would be nice to have some research to quote on this, though, rather than just making something up. Couples in committed relationships, outside the BDSM subculture, usually approach bondage differently. For them, it is an adjunct to sex, one technique of many. While satisfactory studies are unavailable it seems likely that in relationships of any duration, most couples will experiment with bondage at least casually at some point. This may be something as simple as tying a partner's wrists with handkerchiefs or clotheslines. Some couples will ultimately make bondage, in some form, part of their sexual routine. For the most part, such bondage games end in sex. In contrast, bondage games between more casually acquainted players in the BDSM subculture frequently end in masturbation only, or in some cases include no sexual release at all. Safety rules followed by couples in a committed relationship are frequently more subjective and trust-based. These differences can lead to culture clash where a couple with a history of bondage games together encounters the BDSM subculture: the couple can't understand the insistence upon safewords, while the members of the subculture can't understand the focus on sexual intercourse. Male Masturbation Studies of men's sexual fantasies (Friday, Men in Love) have shown that the fantasy of being bound during intercourse is second in frequency only to the basic fantasy of sex with a voluptuous nude woman. Consequently, it should be no surprise that bondage themes have been present in pornography for some time. Bondage pornography for heterosexual men overwhelmingly depicts bound women, rather than bound men, in spite of the most common fantasy in both sexes being one of being bound, rather than of being the dominant. This may be because many men fear becoming aroused by pictures of other men, and are more willing to identify with a bound woman. It may also be because pictures of bound women allow them to vicariously experience both the heterosexual male dominant and submissive fantasies. Early Examples of bondage erotica: Story of O Bishop F. E. Campbell's books Recent changes Steady growth in quantity, production values, and realism Increasing prevalence as a theme in more widely circulated men's magazines, e.g. Penthouse Role of the Internet Professional Dominatrix as offshoot Technique Bondage takes practice to get right. To be effective and enjoyable, it requires communication and trust between partners. For these reasons it is limited to being a source of sexual fantasy in most relationships. However, the financial success of companies that market bondage equipment testifies to the fact that it is more than fantasy to many. Reliable data is unavailable, but perhaps around 5%-10% of married couples have made regular use of bondage in their sexual activities at some point in the relationship. Safety Many people regard bondage as safe when conducted between sober, trusting partners in a committed, functioning relationship. You are responsible for your own and your partner's health. All the dangers of physical restraint apply to sexual bondage. In particular, self bondage without another person present is dangerous and in some forms has lead to many deaths. Other safety precautions include: never leave a bound person alone never tie anything around a person's neck make sure that you have the means to rapidly undo the bondage by cutting the restraints even if you can't untie a knot or release a buckle Bondage of long duration (over 20 minutes), bondage where the subject is suspended, and bondage thorough enough to leave the subject effectively unable to communicate all pose special risks that are beyond the scope of this brief article. There is a subculture of people who seek out others interested in bondage and pursue such activities with people who they do not know well. This subculture has given rise to the safe, sane and consensual credo, which includes the use of a "safeword" that the person being tied up can use to stop the activity. It should be noted that scenes depicted in bondage photographs and videos are chosen for their visual impact and fantasy value. In most cases they cannot be "acted out" with good results. Why do some people like being tied up? People who find it erotic to be tied up do so for a variety of reasons: The most frequently cited reason is a mental freedom from inhibitions and responsibility since they have, in a way, given up control of the sexual situation to follow. This is sometimes referred to as a "power exchange." Some like the tactile feeling of restraint, that is, the feeling of pressure or pulling. Some enjoy the feeling of helplessness for its own sake. Some like to struggle aggressively against their bonds, particularly when being sexually or otherwise stimulated. There are a few people in this category who play bondage games that do not include a significant sexual component. Some derive pleasure from symbolic degradation (less common). There are a handful of people who enjoy role playing prison or mental hospital situations who probably fit best in this category. Fetishistic interest in the mechanics of bondage, with particular interest in the equipment and restraints used. Some of these people are interested in the look, feel, and aroma of leather and rubber restraints. Others are fascinated by the relationship between the geometry of the tie, the degrees of freedom remaining and the feelings elicited. As an adjunct to other BDSM activities Like hang gliding or mountaineering, some feel that bondage allows them to do something potentially dangerous in a safe way. In the wide range of human sexual experience, there are probably a few others. Why do some people like to tie other people up? People who enjoy tying other people up are motivated by a variety of reasons, including: taking pleasure in the erotic submission of their partner wishing to please their partner, and the stimulation engendered by their partner's pleasure in it fetishistic interest in the elegance of bondage, with particular interest in the geometric patterns and symmetry of the restraint using bondage as an adjunct to other BDSM activities Enjoyment of the power and control one has over a restrained partner. People for whom this is a principal motivation may have trouble making it much fun for the other person. How is bondage done? The mechanics are trivial compared to the relationship issues. Start with a committed relationship with a lot of trust and plenty of sexual activity together. Talk things through first. Start slow and easy. Take turns being the one being tied up. It is important to take at least the simple safety precautions listed above. Some members of the BDSM subculture take another route and seek out partners who share their interest in bondage. Many act out their bondage fantasies within the confines of private "play" parties where overt genital contact is not allowed between participants. What are some more involved techniques? Bondage techniques can be divided into five main categories: Bondage that pulls parts of the body together (rope, straps, harnesses) Bondage that spreads parts of the body apart (spreader bars, x-frames) Bondage that ties the body down to another object (such as chairs or stocks) Bondage that suspends the body from another object (suspension bondage) Bondage that restricts normal movement (hobble skirts, handcuffs, human pony harness) Bondage is often combined with other sexual and BDSM techniques. Bondage positions and techniques hogtie frogtie balltie spreadeagle Shibari (縛り, a Japanese bondage style, also called Kinbaku and Nawa shibari) karada (body harness) sukaranbo (crotch rope) shinju (breast harness) asymmetric bondage rope dress crotch rope Bondage equipment Restraints including Bondage cuffs Ball Gags Monogloves Leg spreaders / spreader bars Rope Bondage harnesses head harnesses human pony harness Straitjackets shackles and fetters Bondage furniture, including: chairs, tables, beds massage tables X-crosses stocks and pillories ankle/wrist stocks slings and swings etc. Sensory deprivation including: bondage hoods blindfolds Advanced techniques suspension bondage See also Fetishism Fetish photography Bondage magazine Bondage artists Bondage model Escapology Hojojutsu Pauline Reage, first author to write an explicit novel involving the subject References The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage by Midori, pub. Greenery Press. ISBN 1890159387 Erotic Bondage Handbook by Jay Wiseman, pub. Greenery Press. ISBN 1890159131 External links There are literally thousands of web sites with bondage-related content. Most sites are commercial, and quality and information content are uniformly low with only a few exceptions. Most of the few information-oriented bondage web sites that do exist are ephemeral. All of the major web portals (Google, Yahoo, etc) have extensive lists of bondage-related web sites, broken down, to some degree, by topic. Some practical information on sexual bondage can be found at: http://www.sexuality.org/l/bdsm/bdsmfaq.html This article is from Wikipedia. All text is available under the terms of the GNU Free Documentation License.